When I was a Brownie, we learned a song about friendship that stuck with me through the years. The refrain was:
“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold.”
As I brushed my teeth last night after a fun evening cooking amazing ratatouille with my coworker and her boyfriend, I remembered this song.
Lately, I have been spending more time with my new friends from work than with my old friends from my freshman dorm. In some ways, my new friends and I have more in common than my old friends and I do. My new friends come to yoga, go to farmer’s markets and festivals, trade recipes, and understand why I like to live a healthy lifestyle. They enjoy many of the same things that I do and just seem to “get me.” Sometimes I find myself wondering why I haven’t met these people until now.
Recently, many of my old friends have been giving me a hard time for doing the things I both want and need to do. I prefer to go to yoga, while they want to drink themselves into a stupor. I go to the farmer’s market, while they sleep until noon. I need to work on weekends, while they party. I know that friends drift apart and reunite as people enter different stages of their lives. At this point, I guess our lives do not coincide.
But will we ever be as close as we were before? I know that I have changed over the past two years. While I don’t want to lose my old friends (we’ve been through a lot together), I want to spend time doing the things I enjoy with the people who make me happiest.
Somehow, I need to find balance between my old and new friends. And between my old and new self. Both the gold and silver in my life are valuable.